Friday, July 29, 2005

I Will Survive - Cake

Diposkan oleh meyrinda di 12:59 PM 3 komentar
Sekali-kali posting lagu ah..
Buat yg pernah putus cinta ditaon 2000-an biasanya ini lagu jadi lagu kebangsaan, mantap banget sih liriknya!
Jadi keingetan pertama kali denger lagu ini, langsung kepikir: wah asik banget nih lagu, ntar kalo putus cinta bakalan aku setel kenceng-kenceng pake penghayatan ah!
Eh, ternyata oh ternyata, ga lama kemudian itu keinginan kok terkabul, ya udah, setel aja sambil nyanyi kenceng-kenceng, leghaa...hahaha!
Anyway, seringkali butuh waktu untuk menyadarkan kalo Tuhan tuh amat sayang sama kita...iya ngga?

I WILL SURVIVE

At first I was afraid.
I was petrified.
I kept thinking I could never live
Without you by my side.
But then I spent so many nights
Just thinking how you'd done me wrong.
I grew strong.
I learned how to get along.

And so you're back from outer space.
I just walked in to find you here
Without that look upon your face.
I should have changed my fucking lock.
I would have made you leave your key
If I'd have known for just one second
You'd be back to bother me.

Oh now go.
Walk out the door.
Just turn around now.
You're not welcome anymore.
Weren't you the one
Who tried to break me with desire?
Did you think I'd crumble?
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh not I.

I will survive.
As long as I know how to love
I know I'll be alive.
I've got all my life to live.
I've got all my love to give.
I will survive.
I will survive.

It took all the strength I had
Just not to fall apart.
I'm trying hard to mend
The pieces of my broken heart.
And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself.
I used to cry.
But now I hold my head up high.

And you'll see me with somebody new.
I'm not that stupid little person
Still in love with you.
And so you thought you'd just drop by,
And you expect me to be free.
But now I'm saving all my lovin'
For someone who's lovin' me.

Oh now go.
Walk out the door.
Just turn around now.
You're not welcome anymore.
Weren't you the one
Who tried to break me with desire?
Did you think I'd crumble?
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh not I.

I will survive.
As long as I know how to love
I know I'll be alive.
I've got all my life to live.
I've got all my love to give.
I will survive.
I will survive.

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Thursday, July 28, 2005

Tamara Bleszynski Gitu loh!

Diposkan oleh meyrinda di 6:36 AM 2 komentar
Wow..semua acara infotainment lagi seru ngebahas ttg artis cantik Tamara Bleszynski yang lagi ada masalah sama Rafly suaminya. Gosipnya neh, dah pisah rumah segala...weiss...namanya gosip, digosok makin sipp...hehe! Spontan aja terdengar "suara" dikepalaku:"Akhirnya, ada juga kekurangan seorang Tamara".
Tamara gitu loh! Seorang mualaf yang cantik bin kece abis, pinter, ga sombong, suaminya ganteng bin alim (keliatannya nih), anaknya lucu, bergelimang materi pisan.. Kayaknya kok ga ada celanya. Tapi gosip yang beredar seputar rumah tangganya kemudian seakan menyadarkan aku betapa seorang Tamara "cuman" manusia biasa aja, lengkap dengan segala kelebihan dan kekurangan. Jadi teringat salah satu firmanNYA dalam al-qur'an:
" Ketahuilah, bahwa sesungguhnya kehidupan dunia ini hanyalah permainan dan sesuatu yang melalaikan, perhiasan dan berbangga-banggaan di antara kamu dan bermegah-megahan tentang banyaknya harta dan anak. Seperti hujan yang menjadikan tanaman-tanamannya mengagumkan para penanamnya; kemudian tanaman tersebut menjadi kering dan kamu lihat warnanya kuning lalu menjadi hancur. Dan di akhirat ada azab yang keras dan ampunan Allah serta keridaan-Nya. Sedangkan kehidupan dunia itu tidak lain merupakan kenikmatan yang memperdayakan," (QS Al-Hadid[57]: 20).
Betapa seringkali kita (aku maksudnya..:D) terjebak dalam kenikmatan duniawi, sampe lupa akan makna dan esensi hidup yang sebenarnya.
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Wednesday, July 27, 2005

Pada Suatu Sore..

Diposkan oleh meyrinda di 1:16 PM 0 komentar
Pada suatu sore yang cerah, tiba2 semangat banget pengen ngajak Cun & Dun muter2 komplek sekedar olahraga sambil ngajarin anak bersosialisasi dan mengenal dunia luar, hehe. Ketika berhenti dilapangan komplek sementara Dun bobok dg antengnya dikereta dorong, aku ajak deh kak Cun maen ayunan sambil aku suapin cornflake yang dibawa dari rumah (lumayan, dg alasan mangku anak bisa sekalian mengenang masa lalu naik ayunan...hehe..). Pada ayunan yg satu lagi, seorang anak sedang asyik maen ayunan sambil disuapin bubur pake botol yang ada sendok diujungnya sama si mba. Setelah aku ajak kak Cun menyapa anak tersebut, terjadilah percakapan antar aku dengan si mbak." Kalo anaknya udah bisa makan yang kasar-kasar ya bu?" tanya si mbak ketika melihat kak Cun makan cornflake (yang mana aku anggap adalah hal yang normal dan biasa aja untuk anak seumuran Cunda)." Iya, dia sih sudah makan apa aja, makan masakan rumah, asalkan ga terlalu pedas juga mau", jawabku.
" Kalo Laura (ternyata namanya Laura) belum makan nasi, ga bisa makan yang kasar. Kasar sedikit aja sudah muntah, makan apa aja harus diblender". " Lo, emangnya kenapa mbak? umurnya dah berapa tahun?" tanyaku sambil terheran-heran melihat si anak kelihatannya lebih tua dari kak Cun.
Si Mbak menjawab " Mungkin karena dulu melahirkannya operasi, didalam perut ga mau turun padahal udah dirangsang sampe seharian (apa hubungannya ya??pikirku). Umurnya sudah 3 tahun, tapi ngomong belum jelas, kasian aku sama dia, pokoknya harus sabar dan telaten. Anaknya sih gak mau diem, geraak terus". Setelah terdiam sejenak aku jawab," Gak papa, mungkin nanti sedikit demi sedikit bisa makan yang kasar-kasar".
Ketika si Mbak tau umur Cunda belum ada 2 tahun, keliatan banget rasa kagetnya, apalagi pas liat Cunda banyak cerita keaku tentang anak-anak yang lagi main bola, main sepeda, pergi ngaji, dan sebagainya. Tak lama kemudian kamipun pulang seiring dengan pulangnya matahari. Diperjalanan sambil ngedorong kereta dorong langsung berpikir betapa bersyukurnya aku atas karuniaNYA yang telah memberikan aku anak-anak yang sehat, lucu dan pintar tak kurang suatu apapun. Mereka bisa berkembang dengan baik seiring usianya yang semakin bertambah. Selalu. Selalu ada saja kepingan rasa syukur yang aku temukan dalam hari-hariku. Terlihat sederhana, tapi aku yakin jika kita melihat segala sesuatu dengan mata hati., akan kita temukan begitu banyak hal yang indah dan tidak kita sangka-sangka. Kubawa pulang dan kusimpan baik-baik kepingan rasa syukur yang baru saja aku temukan. Kelak akan semakin indah keping-keping tersebut bila telah tersusun dan terangkai menjadi satu....
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Monday, July 25, 2005

Anak Adalah Salah Satu Guru Terbaikku

Diposkan oleh meyrinda di 12:19 PM 2 komentar
"Anak-anak berceloteh tak keruan
Namun kisah-kisah mereka
menyingkap banyak misteri dan ajaran moral
Meskipun mereka juga penyebab berbagai kekisruhan
Teruslah mencari harta terpendam
di balik puing berserak yang mereka tinggalkan".
(Permata Rumah Kita, Miranda Risang Ayu)

Membaca kutipan buku tersebut diatas jadi keingetan sama Cunda dan Dunda para malaikat kecilku. Dibalik spontanitas mereka sehari-hari (terlebih cunda yang akan berumur 2th bln september nanti) selalu saja ada makna yang bila kita jeli menangkapnya akan jadi bahan perenungan tersendiri. Pada suatu ketika Cunda mengajarkan untuk berbagi ketika potongan terakhir kuenya dia berikan padaku. Dilain kesempatan disodorkannya Al-Qur'an kepadaku untuk dibaca (jadi malu, apalagi keingetan lama ga ngaji dgn alasan yang klise banget, sibuk! hehe). Dan tentu saja mereka mengajariku untuk lebih bersabar ketika mereka menuang minuman kedalam makanan, mencabut tanaman anggrekku yg lagi berbunga, maen2 dimeja rias dgn hasil tumpahnya bedak, ancurnya eye shadow, patahnya lipstik kesayangan.....Gimana mau marah ketika matanya menatapku dengan penuh kepolosan dan kedamaian yang mampu melumerkan emosi dalam hatiku?? Tak ada lagi yang lebih berarti ketika engkau menatap mataku dan berkata:"apa buah??" (blm bisa panggil "bunda", yang keluar malah "buah"! berasa seger kali' ya sosok bunda dimatanya?hehehe)
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Wednesday, July 6, 2005

Full Time Mother

Diposkan oleh meyrinda di 1:18 PM 0 komentar
Artikel ini bikin saya semakin mensyukuri keberadaan saya sebagai FTM lengkap dengan segala kelebihan dan kelemahan yang saya punya. Bagaimana menurut Anda?

Introduction
A woman is usually described as a man's better half.
Is she the better half or is she the only half that matters? Is she a half at all?
A man is usually measured by the success he achieves in life, by his material possessions, and by how "high" he has climbed the social ladder.
Part of this self-proclaimed success in this "man's world" is a nice car, nice house, nice business, nice children, nice wife, nice friends, nice holidays, nice toys, etc. (Note that the wife is listed under possessions.)
Very rarely is the wife acknowledged or given credit for the man's success.
What is the reason for this malady?

Perceptions of Women
Why do some men treat women in total fairness and give them the respect that they deserve, while other men treat their wife as a mere possession?
Islam very firmly and clearly granted all women the God-given right of equality and fair treatment.
Before this era, women were treated as inferior citizens.
In Europe, the theory was that women were a sub-species between ape and human, and others propagated the notion that women do not have souls.
A female child was treated with total disdain and was even buried alive to hide the "humiliation" of the parents.
Islam raised the status of women to give them full recognition and to destroy these ill-conceived myths devised and propagated by men.
However, in today's era, we tend to regard ourselves as living in the "modern-age";
there have been various feminist campaigns and women's rights organizations that feel that it is necessary to proclaim the independence of women.
Why is this necessary? Is there a need for such organizations?
Are women treated equally in our society? Are women treated with respect in our society?
Are women being abused? This essay deals with a few of these topics, albeit on a superficial level.
This discussion is not meant to be critical of anyone, but simply to present my individual viewpoint, which is subject to correction.

The Modern Day Woman
Many women to day are independent, successful, educated, professional, and self-sufficient. These are the standards whereby we measure "success" and people with these characteristics are what we regard as "intelligent" as opposed to "uneducated."
However, careful analysis reveals that the woman of the house fulfills the following roles:

1. She has to be a wife to her husband.
2. She has to be a mother to her children.
3. She is a teacher, teaching her children between right and wrong.
4. She is a tutor, assisting with homework.
5. She is a psychologist, using her intellect in daily struggles with husband and children.
6. She is a counselor, counseling the children when a bully hits them.
7. She is a financier, budgeting the household expenses.
8. She is a chef, preparing the meals.
9. She is a baker, baking on special occasions.
10. She is a tailor, mending clothes.
11. She is a driver, ferrying the kids to and from school.
12. She is a buyer and store clerk, ensuring that all basic necessities are in the house.
13. She is a switchboard operator, answering the constantly ringing phone.
14. She is a receptionist, answering the door and receiving guests and visitors.
15. She is a waitress, feeding everyone at mealtime before she feeds herself.

Considering the above multi-faceted roles of our wives/mothers/sisters in society, it really surprises me when a woman is asked what job she has and her typical reply is "Oh, I don't work.
I just sit at home. I'm a housewife." Housewife indeed!
This "housewife" is actually the CEO, the general manager of your house.
She is the senior executive and fully fledged board member of the fraternity that you call home.
She ensures that everything (most of the time) runs smoothly with military precision. (Sadly however, some women fritter their life away by sleeping, shopping, and gossiping).

On the few occasions when things do not go as expected, men tend to let the wives know in no uncertain terms that they are dissatisfied (by verbal abuse, or sometimes even physical abuse).
But how often have we informed these same women about the times when things do go well?
How often do we give compliments? Do we counsel gently and encourage wisely, or do we assume that "there is no point talking to her . After all she is just a woman."

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) counseled us to take care of our women and treat them gently.
A woman has been described as being akin to a rib-the natural shape of a rib is bent.
If you try to straighten it, it will break.
"The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break.
So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness" (Al-Bukhari).

However, because of our cultural influences pertaining from our forefathers who lived in the Indo-Pak subcontinent, we sometimes forget that women are not second-class citizens.
Women all over the world have been discriminated against at some stage or another in history in virtually every society. The Qur'an established the God-given rights of equality to women in no uncertain terms as early as the seventh century.
Women were given their liberation and given their rightful status in society.
This status is ordained by Allah Most High.
As late as the 19th century, women in Europe were still regarded as an inferior species and the very first charter in Europe was being formulated to give women certain (but not all) rights.
Today, in the New Millennium, women all over the world are still being discriminated against. Women have rebelled against this discrimination for a fight for "equal rights" and the "liberation movement"-rights that were already given to Muslim women 1,400 years ago!
Unfortunately, the women of the West have developed a misguided concept of "liberation" to their own detriment-a "liberated" woman is someone who can do anything that
a man does. This definition in fact enslaves women rather than freeing them.
Why must women strive to be like men?

Role Play
Why do men set the standards towards which everyone seeks to aspire?
A woman who strives to be more like a man-is she really more of a woman?
Is femininity achieved by being more masculine? Here are some examples of this striving towards masculinity:

1. Women are taking up occupations that were previously male dominated, working, for example, as miners, mechanics, electricians, plumbers.
2. Women are taking up gay liberation with the notion of "who needs a man?"
3. Women are delaying motherhood because they first want to follow their career and enjoy life.
4. Some women are paying surrogate mothers to bear their children because they do not have the time to have their own children.
5. Women are opting for sperm banks to impregnate them, with the notion that they do not need a man in their life.
6. Women are smoking, drinking alcohol, and taking drugs to give them "freedom" and make them more like men.
7. Women are tattooing themselves to look like fearsome male pirates or gang members.

Why do women feel this need to be more like men? What is so good about men that women try and copy them?
More men than women are responsible for wars, crime, violence and mayhem! The quandary appears to be due to a lack of self-esteem among women.
They have come to believe (through male-dominated ideas) that women are not equal to men, and they therefore feel this urge to prove the men "wrong."

Unfortunately for Muslim women, our Muslim sisters read about this dilemma facing the Western women and accept this erroneous idea that they, too, need to be liberated.
However, what our Muslim sisters fail to recognize is that they have already been given their liberation by Allah Most High.
Now it is simply a matter of implementation of this God-given right.
However, if our Muslim sisters emulate the Western women with their dilemma, our Muslim sisters will find themselves in a state of confusion that will shackle them forever.

The Western women are currently confused by the following problems in their search for "equality":

1. Women are now the bread-winners.
The impact of this is that they hold down 9-to-5 jobs, come home late, and still have to cook, look after the children, etc. Unfortunately, in today's economic climate, both parents have to work to earn a living.

2. Women who are career-orientated delay getting married or having children.
This leads to more women getting married in their late 20s and in their 30s.

3. Children do not have a mother figure to look up to because both parents are working.
They have no role models. Children therefore seek role models from their peers or the TV.
In fact, in many homes, the TV is the babysitter. Can you imagine what kind of a future adult is being produced by having the TV as a guide?

4. Nuclear families are in vogue.
An extended family is regarded as outdated. The children lose out because their grandparents are now strangers, and the parents lose out because they perceive grandparents and the children to be a "burden."

5. In all the above scenarios, the children-the future society-are the victims.

Possible Solutions to the Above
1. Women should be encouraged to educate themselves, whatever their age.
If you have a grandparent who is illiterate, take the time to teach her to read and write. The importance of literacy is vividly displayed from the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him): he was prepared to pardon captives of war in exchange for their teaching Muslims how to read and to write.
Education is the only way of breaking the shackles of ignorance and empowering our Muslim mothers, sisters, and daughters.

2. Muslim women must be proud to be mother's of the Ummah.
Children must be taught to have the utmost respect, care, kindness, and love for their mother.

3. Muslim women must educate their children about morals and ethics, encourage them to strive to do their best in every endeavor, and teach them that success is born out of sacrifice. Furthermore, it is the duty of parents to instill Islamic values in the future generation of Muslim, the innocent children of today. The children will mold themselves according to their foundation: Will they emulate the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), or will they use the drug addict and rock star as their role model?

4. Fathers must encourage their daughters to seek an education to empower themselves.
The best gift that parents can give their child is education.

5. Women must strive to be the best in any field of endeavor (education, sport, sciences, etc.) and uncover their true potential-but the intention must be clear.

6. Fathers must love, respect, and treat their daughters equally as they treat their sons.
If there is inequality in the treatment, then the sons will grow up thinking that they should treat their future wives with the same inequality.

7. A Muslim woman must be proud of her status, her dressing, her religion, her culture, her lifestyle, and her strong Islamic values and principles. She should never ever be apologetic about her religion to anyone.

8. A woman must empower herself in her husband's business and understand the nature of that business.
This example is made vividly clear from the Prophet's wife Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her), who was an astute and successful businesswoman and equivalent to the Oppenheimers and Rockefellers of today.
Therefore, it is advisable for a Muslim woman to understand the details about her husband's business, even if it means going for a basic financial course and learning computers.
If the husband dies tomorrow, who will run the business? Who will feed the kids? Will a potentially lucrative business close down because the woman was never empowered to understand the business?
Furthermore, a man should give his wife a fair salary in his business or make her a full partner and let her share in the rewards.

9. A Muslim widow who is running a business should be empowered by the rest of the community by their support and purchase of her products. She is trying her best to survive by honest means. Please support her.

10. Finally, Muslims have a vital role to play to show to the rest of the world that Islam was the first religion to grant women their rightful high status in the community. Let us not taint our religious obligation with our cultural prejudices. It is time for action.

"Paradise lies at the feet of your mother."
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Friday, July 1, 2005

Blog Sang Amatir

Diposkan oleh meyrinda di 9:45 PM 0 komentar
Akhirnya...setelah sekian lama berkelana dari blog satu ke blog laen tanpa punya blog....walaupun berasa banget aura "amatir" disini, tetep aja ga mengurangi kegirangan hatiku..hehehe
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